Would you prefer to make your own decisions for your future instead of them being made for you? Are you willing to do the work needed to reach agreements with your spouse/partner, make thoughtful financial and co-parenting decisions, and plan the next phases of your lives together? As a separation and divorce mediator, I educate, empower, and help clients reach mutually acceptable agreements of quality. I work with people who can commit to constructively approach a major life transition with transparency and integrity, and who choose to work towards solutions that can benefit both. By working together from the time they decide to separate or divorce, my clients can do so in an orderly manner, limit conflict, preserve the ability to effectively co-parent, and plan and make the best choices for their futures. I’m a Seattle divorce mediator with over 30 years of experience as a divorce lawyer and as a divorce financial analyst, dedicated to helping my clients reach mutually acceptable agreements on finances and co-parenting.
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If you’re getting divorced, the most valuable gift for your children is to create a healthy post-divorce co-parenting relationship with your co-parent. If you can do that, your children will almost certainly do better. The best intentions may not be enough, because quality co-parenting in separate households during and after divorce requires more than just good intentions. It’s well worth the effort to do the work to create structures for smoother long-term co-parenting with your co-parent. Research shows that acrimony between parents has serious negative effects on children. Studies show that children who have exposure to parental conflict (whether or not the parents are divorced) have a significant increased risk of substance use, promiscuity, anxiety, mental and physical health issues, and lower academic achievement. Power struggles, court battles, and adversarial negotiation approaches tend to inflame power struggles and expose children to parental conflict, making it more challenging for parents to work together as effective co-parents—with your children paying the price. Divorce Mediation can provide an excellent opportunity to build a better foundation for post-divorce co-parenting structures—and a better, healthier, future for you and your children.
Divorce can be hard enough even under the best of circumstances. By working in mediation from the moment they make the decision to divorce, many couples find they are able to stay on track throughout the divorce process, reach durable and mutually acceptable agreements that address both of their needs, and keep acrimony at bay. With facilitation by a skilled and experienced mediator, you receive education and guidance to empower you to reach an agreement that addresses your concerns and needs. A mediator helps keep the conversation on track. In the mediation style in which I work, you have professional guidance from the very start to help you reach an agreement that satisfactorily addresses all issues, including property division, child support, spousal maintenance, and parenting. Ground rules help to ensure that all can participate, and you have the financial and co-parenting information needed to help you make the best possible decisions given your unique circumstances and priorities. Divorce Mediation can provide a safe environment so you and your spouse can work in the same room and reach thoughtful and reality-based agreements for your post-divorce future.